Outward or the inward, what are we more concerned about?

Yesterday at work I got talking to a customer for almost an hour about a lot of heavy stuff which has really hit home to me and is hanging round in my head and won't go away!
One of the things were tithing and how the Bible doesn't say that we must give 10% but that we desires all of our heart and from that we give him whatever he tells us too and that comes from a love relationship with him, so if he says I want 25$ of your weekly income you can give it to him. If he says I don't want your money I want all your time and I want you to quit your job and move to Africa then you will.

The other thing we talked about was how this generation at Church things that are pushed are attendance at services and life groups, and that generally that is pushed more than time with God.
This mother and daughter that I talked too go away to fix up their rental property in Feilding quite a bit and don't make it to Chuch and life groups week to week, however they said they still have a strong relationship with each other and they make sure they are still surrounding themselves with christian fellowship (each other and friends).

This made me think, how many times have I asked someone why they wern't at a Church event verses how many times have I asked someone how their personal relationship with God is?
I bet we spend more time (myself included) at Church or doing "Churchy" things verses spending time with God. Now there isn't enough hours in the week to spend more time in the word verses the Church commitments they might have for some people but what are we prioritising?
Am I more concerned about doing stuff or spending time with God? I am a Christian and that means choosing a relationship with the creator of the universe. It is like marrying someone then ignoring them, never talking to them, never wanting to hang out with them for the rest of the marriage... which I imagine wouldn't last long if that was the case.

So here is a challenge, if you are reading this and you are a Christian... How is your time with God going? Do you spend regular time talking to him (also known as praying...), do you spend time reading his love and encouragement letters he has written you (aka the bible) and are you aware everyday that you are in a relationship with the creator of the universe?

I am going to start asking everyone I am in relationship is how there personal relationship with God is going from now on and change the culture of the concern of the outward to the inward :)


Excuse all spelling, grammar and bad punctuation and all lack of capital letters, I wrote this very quickly cause I am suppose to be working on a assignment....